100 Life Changing Advice for Youths: Small Shifts, Big Impact​

I have read, lived and gathered experiences in this life. I pen down and offer timeless old school advice on etiquette, leadership, relationships, personal growth, resilience, health, work, finance, travel, kindness, passion, and life perspective. No one cares about you as much as you do; hence, read the lines below at least once.

Etiquette and Manners

1. Manners maketh the man. Hugs and handshakes, give them like you mean it.​Never shake a man’s hand sitting down. When shaking hands, grip firmly and look them in the eye.
2. Respect personal space, listen with full attention, and let others finish before you respond. Listening is a superpower that builds trust, reveals hidden needs, and deepens every relationship.

Build Solid Character

1. Hold your heroes to a higher standard.
2. Play games with passion and honesty or don’t play at all.
3. Be confident and humble in your good or bad times. 
4. Shame is a sign of an honorable man.
5. Vulnerability is okay and isn't anything to be ashamed about.
6. Don’t take criticism from people you wouldn’t take advice from.
7. Don’t make decisions when you are feeling emotional. Literally, sleep on it!
8. Being able to admit you were wrong or made a mistake is respectable.
9. The ability to resist impulse will be a big predictor of your future success.
10. If you are too afraid of doing something, then do it scared. Embarrassment is the cost of entry. 
11. Don’t let trolling steal your peace. Most trolls feed on reaction, not reason. Your silence can be stronger than their words. Protect your mental space and choose dignity over debate.
12. Comparison kills joy. Run your race, ignore the crowd; greatness is personal, not a popularity contest.
13. The best life skill you can develop is to stop being afraid of failure or rejection.
14. Mental strength is built in the moments you choose discipline over comfort and reflection over reaction. 

Resilience and Toughness

1. Have a tolerance for uncertainty. This is the most valuable human trait.
2. Make it a habit to respect people without knowing their qualifications, title or position.
3. Tough times don’t last, but tough people do. Endurance is under appreciated quality.
4. ​Life is tough for all, but it is a lot tougher if you’re stupid. Learn from yours and other mistakes.
5. Every man has to go through a phase in life where nothing matters to him. Be like a duck during this. Remain calm on the surface and paddle like crazy underneath.
6. Life is not fair. Society or Workspace does not operate with concepts of justice or fairness. But better to migrate from unjust places. 
7. Show up in people’s bad times, even if you have no perfect words to offer. Your quiet presence and reliability matter more than charm.

Health and Habits

1. Buy fewer clothes but wear the highest quality.
2. When entrusted with a secret, keep it. Don't gossip. 
3. Quit porn. The damage it does to your brain is too great of a cost.
4. Never turn down a breath mint.  Return a borrowed car and bike with a full tank.
5. Screen time steals dreams if unchecked. Log off to live. real wins happen offline.
6. Invest in your health by making good choices about nutrition and fitness. Eat premium food, not junk.
7. Don’t underestimate the importance of sleep. Upgrade your mattress. Sleep changes everything.​
8. Take 10 minutes a day and clean a different part of your house. Do this every day until it’s a habit. 
9. Don't “brag” about staying up late, having strange eating habits, or being able to consume a large number of drugs. These bad habits will haunt you in your 30s.
10. Treat fitness as a daily habit, not a phase. Fitness turns the impossible into “just hard,” and makes the hardest things you face feel possible.

Personal Growth and Mindset

1. Don’t lie to yourself. Lying to self is most injurious to the growth and character.
2. Be ambitious and set goals in life. 
3. Talent is overrated. Don't be caught in the trap of potential and talent.
4. Passion may light a fire, but it takes hard work and discipline to keep the flame alive and produce genuine results.
5. Visualization and Manifestation are the next steps for success after hard work.
6. Everything that happens shapes you. Reflect regularly on how.
7. Time magnifies the margin between success and failure. It will multiply whatever you feed it. Good habits make time your ally. Unhealthy habits make time your enemy.
8. Read long-form, think slowly, and practice one hard skill deeply instead of chasing every trend.

Work and Professionalism

1. No matter how mundane the job is, do it properly.
2. Be highly skilled at your job and mentor the juniors.
3. See every situation as an opportunity to grow, not something you’re entitled to receive.
4. To be successful in life, make yourself irreplaceable. 
5. Trust, Advice and Secrecy of others' opinions in professional space is a hidden moat. 
6. After writing an angry email or social media post, read it carefully. Then delete it.
7. When you show up late, it tells people that you think your time is more important than theirs.
8. If you study to remember, you’ll forget. If you study to understand, you’ll remember.
9. Not everything in your brain needs to come out of your mouth or appear on your social media posts.
10. Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity. It's not about sitting idle or facing bad times; it's about building and upskilling for what's next.
11. Avoid the cheap dopamine hit of announcing everything to people. Life is easier when no one knows your goals. Only in silence, a person can grind and fix himself.

Finance and Wealth

1. Do not live outside your means. Understand basics of saving, debt, compounding, and taxation early.
2. Someone else is happier with less than what you have.
3. As a man, take your financials very seriously. The world is very cruel to a poor man. Make a lot of money so that you can walk away from toxic workplaces comfortably.
4. Hire a helper for household chores. Buy back your time.
5. Set an automatic amount of money to be saved and then start expenses. Create habit of saving & investments from young age.
6. Invest in experiences, not just stuff. Memories from learning, travel, service, and shared moments compound in value in a way objects never can.
7. Surround yourself with high‑value people—those who think deeply, act with integrity, and push you to grow. The quality of your circle quietly sets the ceiling on your habits, your standards, and your future.
8. Community, health, and relationships are the real markers of wealth. A strong body, a calm mind, and people who show up for you in both crisis and celebration are assets no market crash can erase.
9. Upgrade your financial adviser. The one who got you here won't get you to the next level.
10. Keep your debt in check. It gets easier as you get older, but not having a ton of debt is amazing.
11. Money may not be able to purchase happiness, but it undeniably brings comfort — and comfort is an essential part of a good life, particularly in old age.
12. There are two things in life. Things you need, and things you want. You need a roof over your head, food in your stomach, and someone else to go through life with. Everything else is a want. Work for the things you want. But live for the things you need.

Travel and Learning

1. Experience the serenity of traveling alone and living in another culture.
2. If you’re going to another place, then take time to research the big differences in any laws you’re used to and learn to say Hello, Goodbye, Please, and Thank You.
3. Spend money to go to new places like China. 
4. With books unread, muscles untrained, and thousands of skills untouched - if you're bored, you're not even trying.
5. Read outside your comfort zone, watch world cinema, listen to the diverse music and immerse oneself in diverse cultures matter not because they are recreational, but because they are acts of de-centering: they shift you out of the invisible architecture of your own conditioning.
6. Write down your dreams and reflect regularly on how everything that happens shapes you—journaling your experiences turns raw life into wisdom, helping you process emotions, track growth, and uncover patterns for better decisions. This practice builds self-awareness and resilience, essential for personal development.
7. Spend money on going to new places, even far ones like China, because seeing how other societies live, work, and innovate gives you an edge no book can match. In a fast‑changing world, this kind of exposure rewires your thinking, shows you new possibilities, and keeps you from getting trapped in a narrow local mindset.

Kindness and Leadership

1. Stand up to bullies. Protect those bullied.
2. Don’t be mean to your dog or pet. He’s a few years of your life, but you are all of his.
3. You have a lot of pride and want to accomplish everything by yourself, but whenever you’re in need and everyone around you has let you down. You can always come back home in any crisis.
4. Giving is most powerful when it costs you attention, time, and effort; money can support people, but your presence and efforts can truly change them.
5. Even small gestures of kindness can have a lasting positive impact. Always be open to helping others, even strangers. 
6. In all things, led by example. Give credit to the team. Take the blame as a leader.
7. Nobody does anything without help. People open doors for me, just as I open them for you. It doesn’t make you any less of a man to walk through them.​
8. Build relationships by volunteering before networking; when you help others in personal or professional settings without needing anything in return, your character speaks louder than any business card.

Parents and Kids

1. Nobody, and I mean nobody, will ever have your back like your parents do. Believe it.
2. Your parents did the best they could with what they’ve been taught. Forgive them & move on.
3. Call your parents. Spend time with them. You don’t have as much time with them as you think.
4. Fatherhood differs entirely from motherhood. A father may accept being loved less, but never at the cost of his principles, and deep down, he cannot bear to see his son grow weak.
5. Your family heritage defines your foundational identity—lean on it during trials, honor it through actions, but forge chosen bonds (like true friends) that transcend blood ties.
6. Take the time to enjoy the little/quiet/everyday moments with your kids. They grow up really fast. It’s easy to remember the big events, milestones and vacations. But those small moments of sharing ice cream on a summer day or sitting outside looking at the stars together…those are magic. Don’t overlook them.

Friends and Spouse

1. You deserve what you consistently accept, not what you secretly hope for. Set clear boundaries and act on red flags like disrespect, manipulation or neglect early. Don't be caught in a toxic relationship.
2. Practice saying no politely and confidently to protect your boundaries, whether facing peer pressure or professional requests. 
3. Most relationships can be maintained & improved by investing the time and having clear communication. If you can’t have difficult conversations with someone you love and trust, you won’t be successful.
4. Identify who your good friends are and make an effort to stay in contact with them. You don’t need a whole ton of friends, so it is almost always better to have 2 or 3 close friends than a bunch of loose acquaintances.
5. Recognizes that friendship and loyalty may require sacrifice of the soul but doesn’t tread lightly across the line separating what’s legally correct and what’s ethically mandated.​
6. You marry the girl; you marry her family. Respect is the way forward.
7. If you marry, marry someone because they are your best friend, you share a common philosophy on life, have common values, and want common goals in your future. Don’t marry someone primarily because you think they’re good-looking.
8. Accepting each other’s authentic selves - strengths, flaws, fears, and boundaries - is a sign of the maturity.
9. Cheating doesn’t start with adultery; it starts the moment you choose secrecy over honesty and protecting temptation over protecting the person who trusts you.

Passion and Life Perspective

1. Don’t expect your 20s to be great. It’s normal to be unhappy, feel lonely, and make lots of mistakes.
2. Never trust anyone whose flaws you can’t see. It means they’re hidden deep. Keep your distance from manipulators or those who pressure you into wrongdoing,
3. If you are not where you want to be in life, it's your own damn fault. Don’t blame others for what you don’t have. Get up and go get it.
4. Don’t worry about what other people are thinking about you, because everyone is only thinking about themselves.
5. Popularity fades, girls aren’t worth it until after college, money is better than video games, you can't stop smoking or drinking anytime you feel like, life won’t just fall into place, and you have to go out and make your life better.
6. Life doesn’t end at 25 or 30. If you haven’t done or seen or enjoyed all the things you think you should have in your 20’s it’s fine. There’s a whole lot more life left to do it.
7. One day, people will remember you for the last time. And then they will forget you forever.

OSHO on WISDOM and PHILOSOPHY

Philosophy, the very word, means love for wisdom, and they have nothing to do with wisdom at all.Wisdom happens only through meditation; it never happens by collecting information. It happens by going through a transformation. Wisdom is the flowering of your consciousness, the opening of the one-thousand-petaled lotus of your being. It is the release of your fragrance, the release of the imprisoned splendor.Real philosophy has nothing to do with thinking; on the contrary it has everything to do with transcending thinking, going beyond and beyond thinking, going beyond mind, reaching to the pure space of no-mind. Out of that space something flowers in you. You can call it Christ-consciousness, Buddhahood, or whatsoever you like. That is true philosophy.

How Populism Works ?

I'm reminded of the well-known satirical novel by Robert Escarpit – The Literatron. I haven't read the novel but just a summary of its review is reproduced from eurozine article. It explains in subtle about how populism works....

I'm reminded of the well-known satirical novel by Robert Escarpit – The Literatron. The Literatron is more or less a machine for creating texts similar to a computer. The idea of its creators was to generate the perfect novel based on the best images from world literature. In response to the highest of expectations, the machine produced a bestseller – Virgin and Typesetter! When the Literatron was asked to compose a political speech the outcome was even more scandalous. After processing the entire history of political rhetoric the machine spewed out a series of gaffs such as: "This politics thing the more it changes the more it stays the same... There are no two ways about it, the clever people are the most stupid of all... All you have to do is hang a few of them (politicians) and things will improve...". This line of thought fits perfectly with an eloquent phrase from the Bulgarian transition, wrought by another merciless critic of his time, the Bulgarian satirist Aleko Konstantinov: "They are all rogues, on both sides!" The speech generated by the literatron was welcomed with raptures by the electorate and the politician whose job it was to make it quickly became a star. Every attempt to deviate from the absurd scenario led to vigorous disapproval.

I can't remember what happened to the literatron, whether it was destroyed as a malicious invention or if it destroyed itself. What was more important was the principles on which the machine operated. Its aim was universality and in the process it purged all nuances, simplified the meaning and looked for an arithmetical mean. The aim was for the text to reach the widest possible audience. The greatest irony was that a message meant for all was in practice a message for no one. This undermined its purpose, since it would have left its audience completely indifferent. The literatron is clearly a metaphor for populism as a leading principle of the political machine. However, populism works. If it didn't, politicians wouldn't resort to it so often.

The story is over dudes..

End of an Argument. How ?

Agrippa's Trilemma :The trilemma is a breakdown of all possible proofs for a theory into three general types:

* The circular argument, in which theory and proof support each other.
* The regressive argument, in which each proof requires a further proof.
* The axiomatic argument, which rests on accepted precepts.

This Trilemma is just for giving you an idea about types of arguments and little bit of creating impression about me (:P).

We came across several heated debates on the online community, forums and blogs about any topic. In a typical argument, each person tries to prove themselves right and the other person wrong. Instead of synthesis or refining of ideas, our focus shifts to stick to our owns idea as prime and supreme one. In the end, each person only ends up either more entrenched in their views or influenced by dominant juggling of words, regardless of who seems to deliver the most rational argument. Arguments are done for the sake of progress than victory. An argument can't be won by resistance. It will only increase the stubbornness of others and a little communication of importance will be achieved. Trying to prove yourself right and the other person wrong is like making a frontal assault on an entrenched enemy position. The goal of your argument is attempting to raise the other person’s awareness while maintaining your own sense of inner peace and identity with the idea.

I wanted to know why so brilliant individuals can't agree on a small point for evolving into next level of discussion. Its major reason which I can catch was that our education system fosters competitive excellence rather than intellectual curiosity or cooperation . Also, I want to know how to conclude these arguments as per seen similar situations in much popular fish market like Group discussions (GD). Any suggestions ??????????????

For good reading purpose,

1- Tagore and his India --- Amartya Sen.

2- Leszek Kołakowski (1927- 2009)

3- Who killed the Indian University ?

4- An interview with Fatima Bhutto.

5- Recession: How Risk Models Failed Wall St. and Washington?

A Crazy Post !@#$

Image is of Madman painted by Theodore Gericault. Now the preview of this writeup should be cleared to you.

"Logic is deduction, not description. Understanding is secondary; the reasoning is the thing. In Logic and Mathematics, we do not understand things . . . we reason and deduce."
--- Quoted from the movie :The Enigma of Kaspar Hauser.

This slightly amended dialogue from the movie set the mood of this post. I haven't seen the movie but read this punch line on pfc. Suddenly, I wanted to compile some hotch potch about wisdom, knowledge and information.
Starting with poetry.....

Where is the Life we have lost in living?
Where is the wisdom we have lost in knowledge?
Where is the knowledge we have lost in information?
-T.S. Eliot

And then progressing with a quote...

Knowledge comes by taking things apart:analysis. But wisdom comes by putting things together.--John A. Morrison

On reading about genius people on nimmy's blog, my heart propelled me to put my crazy idea into words. I choose very arbitrary topic: Knowledge Management. I have put a paragraph here of my crazy idea about KM....

"Reducing carbon emissions of corporates is vital to green IT, a task that recession-induced cost cutting has indirectly fulfilled. I found new mantra for information usage in the era of green IT. Reduce, reuse and recycle the information. Information pollution is term coined by me only in this age of knowledge economy. Knowledge management people should have used this mantra, Its free and open source. Thesis of green IT, Antithesis of Information network and prosthesis for KM guys."

See, I have no clue what I had written here in chaos. I think it is there to confuse people involved in KM field. If you are smart then figure the meaning yourself...

I am going Insane or mad with each day, now you decide....
I am off.