Love

OSHO talks about the fundamental human falacy on Love with great clarity. “You are Love” , sais OSHO. “The basic fallacy that you are carrying within you is that you always loved somebody. This is one of the most significant things about all human beings; their love is always for somebody, it is addressed – and the moment you address your love, you destroy it. It is as if you are saying, “I will breathe only for you — and when you are not there, then how can I breathe?”

I was believing in idealism and true single love (that is non existential in nature) but both were like day dreaming for an impractical guy. I was waking up each day on the wrong side of bed and think about my failures in personal life. Pain's rooted deep but it passes on surface, after all. It's passing now but an ounce of love was rooted deep in soft corner. I was searching for the true love who can stand by me. Then, I read Osho's discourse on love.

I love, because my love is not dependent on the object of love. My love is dependent on my state of being. So whether the other person changes, becomes different, friend turns into a foe, does not matter, because my love was never dependent on the other person. My love is my state of being. I simply love.

If you cannot love yourself, you don't know even the taste of love or what love means.

Love yourself, so that all your loving sources become open, all blocks are removed. And if you can love yourself -- with all your frailties, with all your weaknesses, with all your errors -- you can love anybody in the world. You will have tremendous compassion and understanding, because you commit the same mistakes; the same are your errors, the same are your frailties.

If you love deeply, by and by you will become aware that your love is becoming more and more meditative. A subtle quality of silence is entering in you. Thoughts are disappearing, gaps appearing -- silences. You are touching your own depth. Love makes you meditative if it is on the right lines. Meditation makes you loving if it is on the right lines.

And if you relate, and don't reduce it to a relationship, then the other will become a mirror to you. Exploring him, unawares you will be exploring yourself too. Getting deeper into the other, knowing his feelings, his thoughts, his deeper stirrings, you will be knowing your own deeper stirrings too. Lovers become mirrors to each other, and then love becomes a meditation. Relationship is ugly, relating is beautiful.

These lines have calmed me down. I am not a right man for a struggle with the reality as it flows out of control. Life is so weird and absurd. I don't know about the future and have only vague idea of my past. Now, I don't even want to know future or remember past. I was trying get over with any form of the love in order to be free. I am living the moment. I am becoming an escapist whose mantra is ‘turn-on, tune-in and move-out’to next venture or zone of curiosity.

Love, Reality and Satire

I love cinema and books. What genre in them ? Rather than looking for entertainment element, I love calm, almost hypnotic and intense films or books. I like them as they give me insight of human nature. With experiences of interactions with different minds in the society, cinema and books have helped me to understand human behaviour. Love, reality and satire are three words that has captured me from a long time. I will state about them further here in mine blabbering.

Satire is only tool through which taboo topics and events can be investigated and offer the audience to experience both laughter and discomfort, sometimes simultaneously. It the best of all mass entertainment that has grown of our natural ability to laugh on our tears. Wit and humor combined with knowledge form the basis of satire. Sufficiently advanced satire is indistinguishable from reality. They reflect bankruptcy of ours belief system that we hold very dear despite of its negative impact. The inherent strength of the content matched with cheeky presentation can only awake humans from a state of apathy.

I have started to drop all sort of beliefs that make person behave like irrational. When one inquire about some issue to others, one raise a question about others opinions and deep down disturb his/her belief system. Doubt is the best way to gather knowledge. Unless not doubted to full satisfation of curiosity and extent of pre-existing knowledge, no one embed the information into his/her knowledge bank. That is why search for good teacher is necessary because information provided about reality first may be wrong.

Family and Society constraint the thinking of humans and tend to make one believe that first answers were only correct one. This static state of knowledge prevents expansion of person's consciousness and mind both. Reality is dynamic in the nature and can't be understand by the person stuck in the traditions and deeds of past generations.

This led to the labeling of the person under an identity. An individual trapped in an limited identity will be exploited by authoritative state or religion. It also constraint a person's open interaction with another individual belonging to different belief system. The dilemma of choosing between integration and emigration from mainstream & picking either freedom or security are most tough of all decisions for an individual.

Labels such as society, culture and religion are superficial in nature and they take away the basic freedom to redefine ourselves with each passing moment. Only an individual exist deep down in all of us. An individual that always love and is ready for rational debate in the matters of traditions. Love is a small margin that somehow separates magic and rational method. It is beyond rationality yet best of all human emotions. Reasons are weapons to uncover mask of hypocrisy but only love can raise moral awareness level of an individual towards everything.

Familiarity is not necessarily the same thing as understanding or empathy. Reality is taken in very limited perception by innocent people who only seek for basic needs of life, hopes for better future and a little entertainment. The innocent people became victims in the fights of identity and ideologies that forced them to take sides in this warfare. When such long abuse of power is corrected, same victims become oppressors and confrontation of belief system is generally replaced by an opposite violence. This violence is generated by the lack of understanding of both sides and a strict affiliation to their own set of values.

Louis D. Brandeis remarked correctly that the greatest dangers to liberty lurk in insidious encroachment by men of zeal, well-meaning but without understanding. Tyranny of one belief system over other has been born out of ignorance, superstition, bigotry. The free expression of the hopes and aspirations of a people is the greatest and only safety in a sane society. That is the only evolution for becoming more humane can be attained by us.

Many politicians are in the habit of laying it down as a self-evident proposition that no people ought to be free till they are fit to use their freedom. The maxim is worthy of the fool in the old story who resolved not to go into the water till he had learned to swim. ~Thomas Macaulay